The In-Between Things Blog-versary, Day 4

Today we are wrapping up the In-Between Things blog-versary extravaganza!  It’s been a year! Next week we will get back to our regularly-scheduled content, probably only twice a week going forward.  I feel like I’m still trying to figure out what I’m doing, but I also feel like it has been a very edifying experience and am looking forward to discovering what year two has in store.

A few numbers to make things seem important:

  • 1 person
  • 4 categories
  • 52 weeks
  • 145 posts

In celebration, I decided that this week we would take a look back at the past year by highlighting five favorite posts for each category.

I was sure that it would be simple to skim through and pick my faves.  Not so fast my friend!  Wow, there is a lot there.  I also noticed formatting issues and little typos on pretty much every post (thank you for tolerating my imperfections).  Other than the corrections, there weren’t really any posts that stood out to me.  On the plus side, I guess that means that the writing is at least of a consistent quality (for better or worse). On the minus side, it made it challenging to pick out a few posts in each category to highlight, so I’ve tried to go with just a range of topics.  I’ve re-opened the comments on these posts, please let me know what you think of them.  And if your favorite posts weren’t highlighted, please leave a comment here about which one(s) you feel were overlooked.

Home & Garden Thursday (35)

Let’s be honest, I expected that having this category would advance my domestic goddess aspirations – my house would be clean, my garden would be thriving, I would be making delicious foods, crafts would be happening all over the place – all so that I would have clever things to write about.  Well, my domestic goddess status is still aspirational, but there have been some flashes of brilliance.  The good news is that there isn’t anything to do except to keep trying (all in the name of having material to write about of course).

Just thinking about this makes me want to make another one.  We might be overdue for cream puffs, maybe coconut cream filling would be a nice touch…stay tuned for more on that.
Come on guys, this was clever!
Ah, finally a good, solid craft day!  With such great results.  I wonder what other crafts I can get myself up to?  I wonder who I can talk into coming over to play along?
What a magical place!
This is an idea that had been rolling around in my head for a while, it was great to sit down and actually write it up.  I don’t feel like I’m done with this concept yet, stay tuned for a future installment.

I was listening to a podcast on my walk the other day and it opened with this quote:

“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself…”

– Carl Jung

It struck me that this is what I was feeling when I decided to start this blog.  I was looking for an outlet to communicate. And even though writing is a solitary endeavor, I do feel more connected by having this outlet to explore different things and share my thoughts. 

Thank you for reading.

The In-Between Things Blog-versary, Day 3

Today is The In-Between Things day 3 blog-versary extravaganza!  It’s been a year of Arts & Entertainment Wednesday!  I feel like I’m still trying to figure out what I’m doing, but I also feel like it has been a very edifying experience and am looking forward to discovering what year two has in store.

A few numbers to make things seem important:

  • 1 person
  • 4 categories
  • 52 weeks
  • 145 posts

In celebration, I decided that this week we would take a look back at the past year by highlighting five favorite posts for each category.

I was sure that it would be simple to skim through and pick my faves.  Not so fast my friend!  Wow, there is a lot there.  I also noticed formatting issues and little typos on pretty much every post (thank you for tolerating my imperfections).  Other than the corrections, there weren’t really any posts that stood out to me.  On the plus side, I guess that means that the writing is at least of a consistent quality (for better or worse). On the minus side, it made it challenging to pick out a few posts in each category to highlight, so I’ve tried to go with just a range of topics.  I’ve re-opened the comments on these posts, please let me know what you think of them.  And if your favorite posts weren’t highlighted, please leave a comment here about which one(s) you feel were overlooked.

Arts & Entertainment Wednesday (33)

My interest in creating a blog at all and in having one day dedicated to Arts & Entertainment specifically came out of driving home from the ballet one night with my mom and sister.  I just really wanted to talk about art more.  This would be my outlet.  The challenge is that I am not big on arts criticism and didn’t want to resort to the sort of reviews that you see in various publications.  To me it seems that critics tend to pile their expectations on the work, often with an agenda intended to make the work less, not more accessible.  I’m still working on finding an effective style when it comes to my reviews. Mixing in posts about other sorts of artistic activities helps keep it fun.

RBG
This was the first post where I touched on the subject of feminism and even though RBG is unquestionably fierce, I was nervous.  It is something that I feel very strongly about, I just hadn’t felt comfortable in expressing myself. Since this post, I’ve gained some confidence in handling the subject, but this was my first, tentative step.
My first foray into dance criticism.
What a fascinating person!  I admire his virtuosity and his unique creative process immensely.
This was a fun project.  For me, the best thing about it was the scale. I would have felt overwhelmed with trying to create even just a one page-sized piece of art once, much less every day for a week.  I also liked the weirdness of the medium.  I might like to try this project again … I wonder what I would do differently and what I would wind up with.  Want to play along?
This is something that has fascinated me for years.  Sport as a metaphor may be something worth revisiting.

I was listening to a podcast on my walk the other day and it opened with this quote:

“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself…”

– Carl Jung

It struck me that this is what I was feeling when I decided to start this blog.  I was looking for an outlet to communicate. And even though writing is a solitary endeavor, I do feel more connected by having this outlet to explore different things and share my thoughts. 

Thank you for reading.

The In-Between Things Blog-versary, Day 2

Today is Day 2 of The In-Between Things blog-versary!   It’s been a year!  I feel like I’m still trying to figure out what I’m doing, but I also feel like it has been a very edifying experience and am looking forward to discovering what year two has in store.

A few numbers to make things seem important:

  • 1 person
  • 4 categories
  • 52 weeks
  • 145 posts

In celebration, I decided that this week we would take a look back at the past year by highlighting five favorite posts for each category.

I was sure that it would be simple to skim through and pick my faves.  Not so fast my friend!  Wow, there is a lot there.  I also noticed formatting issues and little typos on pretty much every post (thank you for tolerating my imperfections).  Other than the corrections, there weren’t really any posts that stood out to me.  On the plus side, I guess that means that the writing is at least of a consistent quality (for better or worse). On the minus side, it made it challenging to pick out a few posts in each category to highlight, so I’ve tried to go with just a range of topics.  I’ve re-opened the comments on these posts, please let me know what you think of them.  And if your favorite posts weren’t highlighted, please leave a comment here about which one(s) you feel were overlooked.

Kitten Tuesday (38)

I have been regaling you with minutia about my cats since they were little, baby kittens.  Sometimes these posts are the toughest to write because even though I would like to spend all day, every day staring at these guys, sleeping cats doesn’t always translate into something that someone would want to read.  I anticipate Kitten Tuesdays will be spending more time exploring provocative topics such as careers for cats in the coming year.  And when all else fails, I will just bombard you with cute kitten pictures.

A little walk down memory lane…
I re-read this post and stand by my advice.  Invest the time/effort up front to socialize your new pet properly, it makes everything so much easier in the long-run.
It makes me so happy to have kitten assistants.
This probably is one of my favorite posts.  I giggled the entire time I was writing it and it still just really makes me smile.
I still don’t know what to think about this. Was it something that was in my subconscious all along?

I was listening to a podcast on my walk the other day and it opened with this quote:

“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself…”

– Carl Jung

It struck me that this is what I was feeling when I decided to start this blog.  I was looking for an outlet to communicate. And even though writing is a solitary endeavor, I do feel more connected by having this outlet to explore different things and share my thoughts. 

Thank you for reading.

The In-Between Things Blog-versary, Day 1

This week is The In-Between Things blog-versary!  It’s been a year!  I feel like I’m still trying to figure out what I’m doing, but I also feel like it has been a very edifying experience and am looking forward to discovering what year two has in store.

A few numbers to make things seem important:

  • 1 person
  • 4 categories
  • 52 weeks
  • 145 posts

In celebration, I decided that this week we would take a look back at the past year by highlighting five favorite posts for each category.

I was sure that it would be simple to skim through and pick my faves.  Not so fast my friend!  Wow, there is a lot there.  I also noticed formatting issues and little typos on pretty much every post (thank you for tolerating my imperfections).  Other than the corrections, there weren’t really any posts that stood out to me.  On the plus side, I guess that means that the writing is at least of a consistent quality (for better or worse). On the minus side, it made it challenging to pick out a few posts in each category to highlight, so I’ve tried to go with just a range of topics.  I’ve re-opened the comments on these posts, please let me know what you think of them.  And if your favorite posts weren’t highlighted, please leave a comment here about which one(s) you feel were overlooked.

Health & Wellness Monday (38 posts)

Health and Wellness topics were assigned to Mondays because I have a big hang-up about starting the week off right.  Getting that Monday morning work-out in is, to me, the key.  One thing that I noticed is that the posts that caught my attention were mostly about mindset, not exercise.  Hopefully those are the posts that are more interesting for you as well.

With that in mind, here are my top five Health and Wellness posts from the past year:

This was a great adventure with a special person, but the real reason that this post made the cut is the in-between things tree growing sideways out of a rock in the middle of the dessert.  You go tree! I mean really, if that tree can grow and thrive there, what excuses do any of us have to not be our most amazing selves?
Kind-of like how I forgot about my 2018 suggestions until December, I also had forgotten about my 2019 suggestions.  I’ll tell you what, time management is still a huge nut for me to crack.  For example, I severely underestimated how long it would take me to get this week’s posts organized. I guess the good news is that I’ve gotten better at starting sooner.  How are your plans for 2019 coming along?
I felt so empowered and energized after I left this event.  Women being frank about the challenges that they face in the world, particularly as professionals, is important.
These chakra posts were tough.  The whole point of this blog is to not go too indepth, just touch on interesting concepts and move on.  Chakras don’t really lend themselves to that treatment.  Re-reading the series, I’m struck by how much I crammed into the posts, even after I edited the pants off them.  When I was doing the writing, I remember feeling most engaged by the manipura and anahata posts, and I thought for sure that I would pick one of those to share here.  But when I went back, svadhisthana really spoke to me.  Something about the idea of the daily creativity cycle of death and rebirth.
What can I say guys, I really love a good dose of sunshine.

I was listening to a podcast on my walk the other day and it opened with this quote:

Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself…

– Carl Jung

It struck me that this is what I was feeling when I decided to start this blog.  I was looking for an outlet to communicate. And even though writing is a solitary endeavor, I do feel more connected by having this outlet to explore different things and share my thoughts. 

Thank you for reading.

Ladies-Who-Lunch with the Mommies

I was in Maui a few weeks ago and had the pleasure of going to lunch with my mom and my sister’s mother-in-law at Mama’s Fish House on the North Shore.  It was time for ladies-who-lunch with the mommies at Mama’s (oh, I how crack myself up!).

My sister and her sister-in-law had been a few days earlier and couldn’t stop raving about it. So even though it involved getting off of the beach and putting on real clothes it seemed like a worthwhile adventure.  And the only thing better than a ladies lunch adventure with one little mommy is one with two!

We drove out past Paia on the road to Hana (Mama’s is just outside of Paia, so we stopped before the drive got too interesting).  As soon as we got out of the car we were delighted by this magical little tropical escape.  We walked down a little palm tree-lined path with the ocean on our right.  The open front of the restaurant was on our left.  The entrance was at the far end, opposite the parking lot which gave us a welcome little stroll after our car trip.

The restaurant had that amazing, tropical, polished wood look.  It was dark and cozy and open and airy at the same time.  All of the servers wore fresh flowers in their hair and there were amazing flower arrangements everywhere you looked.

Mama’s is known for its local fresh fish, which is brought in daily.  The menu proudly lists the name of the fisherman who caught whatever is on the menu that day.  Of course, it wouldn’t be a proper “ladies who lunch” lunch without cocktails.

cocktails at Mama's Fish House
From left to right: Pink Hibiscus with elderflower and vodka, Pau Hana with guava, lime, and gin, traditional Mai Tai Roe Ai “the very best”

Our waitress gave such a sweet performance.  She was very animated and enthusiastically recommended several dishes.  Based on her suggestions, for our appetizers we had a Hawaiian ceviche with Opakapaka and mango and a Maui venison that was seared and served over a kale slaw (both of which I forgot to photograph but trust me they looked as good as they tasted).  For our main dishes, I had the stuffed fish, mom had the ginger-steamed Opakapaka, and mom-in-law had the Ahi and Mahi-Mahi in Panang curry.  Even though I enjoyed my main dish, I sort-of regret not ordering one of the waitress’s recommendations because her appetizer suggestions were so fantastic.

Even though we were all properly stuffed at this point, we knew that we couldn’t leave without trying the coconut cake.  The last coconut cake that I remember having was a very heavy and decadent, Southern style coconut cake.  This was the complete opposite – it was like eating a delicious, coconut-flavored cloud.

I love a good ladies-who-lunch date!

Grooming My Fluffy Kitties

An Ode to Hairballs

Oh, fluffy kitties you are so nice
Your fur coat would keep you warm in ice
But since we live in more temperate climes
You’re always shedding all the time

What do you think?  Am I the next William Carlos Williams?  No?  I didn’t think so either.

But I am a good cat mommy who brushes her little treasures *almost* every day.  At least every other day.  That has got to be acceptable.  It is enough to keep them from developing matts on their fluffy behinds (a lesson I learned the hard way) so I feel like I am doing a good enough job.

In addition to their regular brushings with the slicker brush, they get attacked with the FURminator once a week (as per the official FURminator instructions).  Now you would think that since they are getting brushed out pretty often, their weekly FURminator sessions would not be a big deal.  I would think so.

And then here is what I wound up with after this weekend’s groom-a-thon:

Yikes, right?

I probably could have gotten more but official FURminator instructions are very explicit about not over grooming with the tool because it could cause skin irritation.

Now, in spite of all of this brushing, someone (Sally, I’m looking at you) still gets hairballs!  Don’t think that I didn’t want to take a picture of the latest one to share with you, but Mr. Man assures me that hairballs are gross and no one wants to see that.

Their favorite grooming implement are the gloves with the silicon nubbles on them.  Anabel will actually come up to me when I bust these guys out.  They are nice to work with because you can grab the cat with one hand and groom with the other.  You can also get all sorts of places that are tricky with a brush.  She really just wants her chin scratched, but she doesn’t mind when I get after her tummy and her arm pits as much as she does with the brush.

I suppose all this grooming is the price that one must pay to have happy, fluffy kitties around.  It is a small price to pay.  I can’t say that I do a very good job, judging by the state of my furniture but at least this is one of those things that just doing it is almost good enough. Boy, I’ll tell you what though, they sure do feel and look nice once we’re done.

The kitties always groom themselves
They do not think they need my help
But when a hairball I find
We all know it’s brushing time

The 19th Amendment

The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex.
Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.

Amendment XIX to the US Constitution

Technically this post is off-theme today, but it is important-enough topic that I know you won’t mind.  Today we are celebrating the 19th Amendment to the United States Constitution.

The 19th Amendment prohibits states from restricting voting rights on the basis of sex.

Ah, that’s nice, so what.

Here’s the thing: the 19th Amendment was ratified in 1920!  Yes, 1920, not even 100 years ago.

Oh, well, I’m sure it was just an oversight.  You are?  Well then, why was language removed from the 14th amendment that would have included women’s suffrage?  Do you know when the 19th amendment was introduced to Congress?  1878!  Um yeah, that is 42 years from the time that the legislation was introduced until the time it was ratified.

And this is why, even though I grew up thinking that women were equal citizens with full rights, that women’s legal status is a precious and precarious thing and should not be taken for granted.

In the early days of the republic, voting rights were generally limited by states to “freeholders.”  A freeholder was defined as a person who owned land worth a certain amount of money.  Now, women were denied the right to own property through coverture laws, legal doctrine by which a woman’s legal rights and obligations were subsumed by those of her husband.  So, by default, women would not have the right to vote as they couldn’t be “freeholders”.

As time went on, property restrictions began to be eliminated as a condition for suffrage. In parallel, women’s rights advocates were focused abolishing coverture; however, by this point the two issues were being treated as mutually exclusive.  New York State’s Married Women’s Property Act of 1848 made substantial changes to the existing laws concerning the rights of women to own and control property, influencing other states’ legislation as well as the language of the Homestead Act of 1862, which allowed the applicant for a land grant to be of either gender (it specifically indicates, “he or she….”). 

As women began to gain rights as property holders, they were expected to pay taxes on their assets although they continued to be denied the right to vote.  Now what was that whole American revolution thing about again?  Taxation without representation?  I see…

Opponents of the 19th amendment claimed that giving women the right to vote would harm the institution of marriage as women were already represented in the public sphere through their husbands.  These arguments succeeded in blocking women’s suffrage as part of the 14th amendment in 1868, which specifies that voting rights shall be granted to “male inhabitants.” And the fifteenth amendment, ratified in 1870 to clarify the intent of the 14th, states that voting rights “shall not be denied or abridged…on account of race, color, or previous condition of servitude,” and pointedly does not include sex.

Rather than falling too far down the rabbit hole of the history of women’s legal rights in the United States at this point (don’t worry, there will be more coming down the pipe), let’s celebrate that on August 18, 1920, the 19th Amendment to the US Constitution was ratified.  And let’s plan a big party next year for the centennial.  In the meantime, never forget that women’s inclusion in the public sphere has been hard-fought and piecemeal and that we must be vigilant about defending the status of women as fully vested citizens.

Watermelon

Ah summer, I love it so much.  One thing that I love about summer is watermelon.  I don’t think about it for the rest of the year, but when it is hot enough, it is one thing that is always on the crave list. I love to just eat it plain, but there are so many other, easy, fun things to do with it.

These days the powers that be have engineered watermelons to a manageable size (and the seedless part sure is nice too).  But what are you going to do when you ask your husband to pick up a very small watermelon and he comes home with a basketball?

Watermelon and cucumber salad

  • Watermelon (cubed)
  • Cucumber (try to get it roughly the same size as the watermelon)
  • Lime juice
  • Fresh mint
  • Feta

Toss together and serve.

Watermelon water

You can buy bottles of delicious watermelon water at the store if you’re thirsty RIGHT NOW.  But if you have enough time to chop up a watermelon, you can make your own at home.  Just fill your blender with watermelon bits (no need to worry about nicely chopping it) and blend it up.  Yum!

Watermelon margaritas

Since you already have a blender-full of watermelon water, why not put it to good use and make up a batch of margaritas?

  • Blended watermelon water
  • Trader Joe’s Jalapeño Limeade
  • Tequila (I like silver)

Give it another whirl in the blender and serve over ice.

*note: I may have been testing this recipe before writing this post, hence the lack of measurements (just use your own best judgement, it will be fine!).

One thing that I haven’t tried yet, but it is on the list is:

Watermelon Sorbet

  • Watermelon
  • Sweetened condensed milk

Blend. Pour concoction into the ice cream maker.

When I was growing up, I used to make watermelon sorbet with watermelon and I think simple syrup in the ice cream maker.  It was so delicious served with a sprig of fresh mint on top!

What do you like to do with watermelon?

The Real Housewives Triad

Twice a month, my writing group does flash fiction writing exercises.  This is not a strong area for me, and most efforts are nothing that I would try to get you to read.  This one however just makes me giggle.  Here is the photo and below, my story about the Real Housewives Triad.

Photo courtesy of: Starrchez; character: Anann (Sara Maraffino) from short film, Killing Anann; courtesy of C3Stories and Dreamwalker Productions
Photo courtesy of: Starrchez; character: Anann (Sara Maraffino) from short film, Killing Anann; courtesy of C3Stories and Dreamwalker Productions 

The Real Housewives Triad

In behavioral psychology the “dark triad” describes the convergence of psychopathy, narcissism, and machiavellianism.  Researchers have also identified a “light triad.”  But there is another, less understood triad, the “Real Housewives triad.”  This describes the convergence of hunger, drunkenness, and menopause resulting in explosive and irrational behavior.

Jen had had it!  Who did he think he was?  After taking two bites of the extra-large slice of princess cake that he had requested, he stood up, dropped the rest in the trash, set his plate in the sink, and headed for the sofa in the other room.  He wouldn’t even put his plate in the dishwasher.  Two bites!  He had no idea what she would give for two bites of princess cake.  The heavenly combination of raspberry, almond, and cream.  Princess cake was everything to her that he wasn’t and she had had enough.

Calmly, she pushed her chair back from the table.  There was a locked box in the kitchen junk drawer. 

He padded into the kitchen, “hey, do we have any ice cream?” 

The look in her eye told him that he had asked the wrong question.  She raised her right arm, pointing the barrel of the 9-millimeter Luger at his head. 

“Outside, now.” She was not about to get brains all over her new marble backsplash. 

The End

I learned about the light and dark triads from this article by Scott Barry Kaufman.  His website also has a personality test to see where you fall on the light triad scale.  As far as I’m aware, no one has begun conducting research on the Real Housewives triad…yet.

Cat Nervous Breakdown

Sally the cat

Well guys, I broke Sally.  Not physically!  The dude is completely fine.  He’s eating and pooping and sleeping…all the usual things. No, I seem to have broken him psychologically.  What did I do?  Excuse me!  I did nothing.  It is all very peculiar.

Especially because I can tell you almost the precise moment when my dear Sally puss had his cat nervous breakdown.

It was a couple of Thursdays ago between 2-3pm.  Yes, I’m not kidding.  Well what was going on around here that would have given him a breakdown?  A whole lot of all the same things that go on around here if not daily, then at least regularly.

It was really hot that day, but it had been hot all week; we were all acclimatizing.  It was like any other afternoon, I was at my desk, he was on the cardboard cat scratcher in the next room, Anabel was under the futon (that is her preferred mid-day napping spot these days). We had just had company over the night before and Sally had made a point of laying in the middle of the dining table until it was time for dinner, then he spent the rest of the evening on his chair at the table, being a very gracious and charming host.

Back to Thursday: The gardeners showed up, just like they do every other week.  I went around and closed up the doors and windows to try to keep the noise and dust down a little bit. And Sally didn’t move; he was not bothered.

And then suddenly, he was VERY bothered.  I have never seen him that bothered.  Even at the vet’s office!  Certainly not when there was a skunk under the house (wait…a what where?  Oh yes, I’ll have to tell you that story another day).

I didn’t want to even tell you guys

For a whole week, he was skittish and wouldn’t come out of the front room. If I managed to get him next to me and made a sudden movement, he would bolt.  He jumped every time Mr. Man makes a loud noise.  It was a little ridiculous.

Do you want to know who was even more upset than Sally?  Mr. Man. I just could not convince him that the cat was fine. 

Sally was still eating (as long as I brought his food into the front room) and he wasn’t hurting anywhere. Our unlimited vet visit kitten plan had just expired, and I was not about to spend $50 to take him to the vet to be told there is nothing wrong with him just to try to make Mr. Man feel better.  My solution was to ignore his strange behavior as much as possible and see if he would get over it.  Worst case scenario, we had broken our friendly, easy-going cat and were going to be stuck with a nervous, high-strung one for the next 15-20 years.  Oh well, been there, done that.

Slowly, over the course of the next week, Sally’s behavior went back to normal (and so did Mr. Man’s). He seems now to have completely recovered from his cat nervous breakdown.

I love it when ignoring your problems actually does make them go away!